I know I have some ace followers, would anyone be willing to talk to me about writing an ace character at some point? I just don’t want to get things horribly wrong and insulting and stuff.
My buddy Katie is writing a novel with an ace protagonist, and is…
I discovered that I was an Ace two years ago, and have found myself in the demisexual niche as of last spring. I am not aromatic.
Thank you for NOT making your guy a robot, aces can be of any personality just like any other sexuality.<3
So, I will answer your question to the best of my ability.
Asexuals sit on the other end of the scale from Hypersexuals. In that, when presented with a sexual situation the reaction ranges from non at all, low, or disgusted. The reason apparently is lower chemical to no chemical reaction or “ the way a person is wired” just as a lesbian is born that way, for example.
BUT Asexuals can still enjoy porn and masturbation, it’s simply the act of sex with another person that usually doesn’t appeal or strongly attract.
Anyone one can identify as any sexuality at anytime.
Aromantics, from what I have learned, do not form romantic bonds with people. They instead form a strong platonic bond. There is an artist on tumblr who has this understanding with her girlfriend and they are just fine and dandy. (sorry the link has escaped me ><)
You do not have to be asexual to be aromatic or visa versa.
Demisexuality is person who will not develop romantic and/or sexual feelings for another person until they have formed a deep bond with that person. (personally it has made best friendships a might confusing for me in the past XP)
So as far as reaction to innuendo, flirtation, or downright seduction, your ace character will either: not notice it, notice it and be immune to it, or be disgusted by it (and everything in between).
I know I am usually unaware of more subtle methods of flirtation, and very uncomfortable with being touched flirtatiously, for example.
Hope this helps out, and again, disclaimer: I have tried to explain this to the best of my knowledge. please add/change this advice as you see fit, fellow aces/aros *salutes*
And always a good writing tip to all in these situations: DON’T SAY what a character is, SHOW IT.